Nobody likes to feel uncomfortable. Especially not in social situations. We don’t want other people to know we feel uncomfortable and once someone does feel that way, everyone can feel it. “You could cut the tension with a knife” is a common saying for that reason. One thing that has humbled me over the years […]
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The start of a new year carries a lot of promise and excitement. Fresh calendars. Big intentions. A collective sense of this is the year things change. And then… life happens. Routines get disrupted. Motivation fades. The habits we swore we’d keep quietly slip away. When that happens, it’s easy to pile on guilt or
One of the things we people‑pleasers are very good at…is pleasing people. We like to make sure everyone else feels comfortable and has what they need. We don’t like to rock the boat. And we rarely consider ourselves as part of the “people” who need to be pleased. So we say yes. We feel a
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The voice you hear most in your life is not the loudest one in the room.It isn’t your boss, your partner, your parents, or the culture humming in the background. It’s the one that speaks when no one else is listening. It’s your own. For most of us, that voice has been talking for a
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Un-Stuck Yourself: The One Word That Makes It Possible Most people don’t avoid change because they’re lazy or unmotivated. They avoid it because they’re convinced it will be too hard — or that they’ll fail when they try. Somewhere along the way, we start to believe that effort doesn’t matter because the outcome is already
“Science” and “the research” say that people are more likely to meet their goals if they are SMART goals. So, what are SMART goals? It’s just an acronym that stands for Specific, Measurable, Attainable, Relevant (or Realistic), and Time-bound. I’m finding that this system actually doesn’t work for me. I’ll explain how to set these
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Hey. Welcome back. We felt we owed you an apology. Sorry for being away so long. Sorry for leaving you hanging during a pandemic and social unrest when you most likely needed tools for coping more than ever. We’ve been dealing with our own personal stuff and we are so sorry we haven’t been here
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Recently, the state of America has been chaotic. At least, it’s felt that way to me. Within the perceived chaos of the country is a significant and urgent message that has been simmering for centuries and has finally boiled over once again. Black Lives Matter. My tendency is to completely ignore the news. Firstly, I’m
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Humans are creatures of habit. We tend to like routines. Even if some of us are considered spontaneous, we spend most of our days repeating the same actions, talking with the same people, and watching Netflix. Oops. We’re inclined to do the same things over and over, without even thinking about it. One of the
After a short hiatus, we decided to return with a piece addressing the elephant in the room – feelings that may be arising because of recent changes to your routine, information overload, or lack of accurate information. The last few weeks have shown us some drastic changes in the US social structure, economy, and healthcare