The Shape of Pain Suffering does not arrive; it drifts in like fog or crashes through like a storm, indifferent to the timing of our lives. One moment, all feels familiar, and the next, we are inhaling salt and smoke. Something we trusted—our health, our marriage, our purpose, our sense of safety—has fallen out from […]
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You’ve set a goal. Chosen a habit. Installed a new mindset. You’ve implemented the change. But something’s still missing. Implementation is the beginning, not the finish line. To truly transform, we must go deeper than the doing. We must integrate the change so that it becomes a natural part of who we are, woven into
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Un-Stuck Yourself: The One Word That Makes It Possible Most people don’t avoid change because they’re lazy or unmotivated. They avoid it because they’re convinced it will be too hard — or that they’ll fail when they try. Somewhere along the way, we start to believe that effort doesn’t matter because the outcome is already
For most of my life, I kept lists: to-do lists, goal lists, productivity systems stacked on top of other productivity systems. They worked for life management. I was very good at managing my life, but not always good at becoming myself. I was tracking outputs, not transformation. Checking boxes, not changing shape. That’s when I
Crafting a clear vision of the ideal day in your ideal life and then revising it as you grow and gain insight and clarity is a large component of living a life dedicated to the pursuit of personal development. The more detail you pour into your vision the more likely you are to manifest it.
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“Science” and “the research” say that people are more likely to meet their goals if they are SMART goals. So, what are SMART goals? It’s just an acronym that stands for Specific, Measurable, Attainable, Relevant (or Realistic), and Time-bound. I’m finding that this system actually doesn’t work for me. I’ll explain how to set these
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Humans are creatures of habit. We tend to like routines. Even if some of us are considered spontaneous, we spend most of our days repeating the same actions, talking with the same people, and watching Netflix. Oops. We’re inclined to do the same things over and over, without even thinking about it. One of the
“When I start building, I don’t set out to build a beautiful wall. My intention is a lasting structure. Throughout the day, I apply my efforts to the basic principles of dry stone construction. If I follow them successfully, I’m likely to leave behind a pretty good looking wall.” – Dan Snow, In the Company
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We’ve all done it. As a matter of fact, we all DO it. Comparison. Yes, the death of joy. But what does that really mean? We’ve heard that phrase before, but have you ever really thought about the true meaning of it? The thing is, it’s impossible to experience genuine, sincere, and simple joy when
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“A goal without a plan is just a wish.” -Antoine de Saint-Exupéry We all have wishes and dreams. We all experience moments of wanting more. The more that we desire is significance, meaning, and fulfillment. We turn wishes and dreams into accomplishments and get the more that we crave through effective planning. Careful and effective
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