Becoming depends on self-trust Boundaries require self-trust Self-Love grows from self-trust But what is self-trust, really? Self-trust is the ability to make decisions, handle mistakes, and practice emotional care. Self-trust means listening to that inner voice some may call intuition. It is not about being perfect or knowing all the answers all the time. I […]
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One of the things we people‑pleasers are very good at…is pleasing people. We like to make sure everyone else feels comfortable and has what they need. We don’t like to rock the boat. And we rarely consider ourselves as part of the “people” who need to be pleased. So we say yes. We feel a
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Most of us don’t struggle with boundaries because we don’t understand the definition. We struggle with it because we are taught slowly, subtly, and repeatedly that our needs are transactional and negotiable. As a “people pleaser” setting boundaries has always been an issue for me. I am sure there are many of you just like
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You’ve set a goal. Chosen a habit. Installed a new mindset. You’ve implemented the change. But something’s still missing. Implementation is the beginning, not the finish line. To truly transform, we must go deeper than the doing. We must integrate the change so that it becomes a natural part of who we are, woven into
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As I welcome the beginning of 2026, I’m not interested in resolutions that fade by February or vision boards that end up tucked away in the back of my closet. I am choosing something different—something that lives and breathes with me. If you’ve read last week’s blog on the “Becoming List,” you already know this
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For most of my life, I kept lists: to-do lists, goal lists, productivity systems stacked on top of other productivity systems. They worked for life management. I was very good at managing my life, but not always good at becoming myself. I was tracking outputs, not transformation. Checking boxes, not changing shape. That’s when I
An open letter to the Insightful Spark community For the last couple of years, I’ve been cocooning—folding myself away from all the things while I did the deep inner work of letting go and moving forward. It’s been a quiet kind of metamorphosis, the kind that looks like stillness on the surface but burns with
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As the end of February approaches I want to check in with you and see where you are in relation to your resolutions and goals for 2021. Have you started working toward them? Have you made progress? Have you completely fallen off the wagon? This is a gentle reminder that the resolutions we make and
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“A goal without a plan is just a wish.” -Antoine de Saint-Exupéry We all have wishes and dreams. We all experience moments of wanting more. The more that we desire is significance, meaning, and fulfillment. We turn wishes and dreams into accomplishments and get the more that we crave through effective planning. Careful and effective
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“In preparing for battle I have always found that plans are useless but planning is indispensable” – Dwight D. Eisenhower Dreams. Desires. Longings. We all have them. Seldom do we take the necessary action to bring them to life and thus, they remain secrets, buried in our hearts and minds. Perhaps we are working at
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