Read that again.
Most dissatisfaction isn’t about circumstances. It’s about contortion. It’s about the version of yourself you have to maintain in order to keep everything running. The edits. The constant self-monitoring. The parts of you that stay hidden because they don’t fit the shape of the life you’ve built.
You don’t hate your job, your relationships, or your responsibilities as much as you hate the self-erasure they require. The exhaustion you feel is real. It’s the cost of being someone you’re not.
The moment you stop asking “What’s wrong with me?” and start asking “Where am I abandoning myself?” everything changes.
This is one of the hardest truths we have to face on our journey to becoming more fully ourselves. And taking ownership of the fact that we’ve been abandoning ourselves will be one of the greatest discomforts we’ll have to learn to sit with and lean into.
If you want real change and meaningful growth you have to get honest about where you are abandoning yourself to make the people around you comfortable, to keep peace, to get along and go along.
Choose small ways to stop abandoning yourself right now, today, in this moment.
Choosing to be true to yourself is the first step toward building the life you’re in love with.
Thanks for sharing your day with me.
Reach higher,
Everette